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The Power of One Word for 2020
If you’re anything like I am, you have mixed feelings about New Year’s resolutions because deep inside, you know you’ll likely let them die a slow, painless death on the side of the road paved with good intentions. Before Valentine’s Day rolls around, you’ve already...
How to Spot a Predator Using Body Language
It was 3 a.m. and I was finally getting ready for bed. It has been a long night, and Kevin (my undercover partner), was out turning over the cocaine we had purchased earlier in the night.When I heard someone knocking at the backdoor, I thought Kevin had forgotten...
Body Language Tips to Instantly Build Rapport
People instantly like them - Do you know someone who's able to put people at ease and create a connection with just about everyone they meet? People seem to like them instantly and want to be around them. Heck, you even find yourself drawn in. I've certainly met...
3 Steps to Silencing Your Inner Critic
The Struggle is Real - Do you ever struggle with receiving compliments? I know I do. My inner-critic often responds with, “Oh, anyone could do that… It’s a work in progress, still lots to do… Thanks but…” Or, my inside voice gets caught in a loop telling myself that...
Trust Yourself to Make Good Financial Decisions: 3 Easy Steps to Avoid Being Scammed
My $30,000 Lesson - You might think that spending almost 20 years working in the criminal justice system would make me somewhat street smart. I used to buy cocaine and other drugs for a living as an undercover police officer in the drug enforcement section. Not that...
What to Do When Humiliation Strikes
Winter is Coming I don’t like having to crawl over top of people, so I always book the aisle seat on airplanes. Aside from the obvious benefit of not giving a lap dance on public transportation, the aisle seat allows for more legroom and first dibs on the snack …
5 Powerful Ways to Improve Your Confidence
My hands were shaking and slippery with sweat, which made holding onto my Smith & Wesson .38 caliber revolver extra challenging. The police Sergeant yelling, “Ready. Aim. Fire!” in my ear didn’t help either. The Sergeant was a bit shorter than my 5’7” frame …
The Imposter Syndrome Strikes Again
I went by the name Pamela Addams for more than eight years. It wasn’t my maiden name or my married name; it was my undercover name. When you’re selected to be a part of the undercover drug unit you choose an alias that’s easy to remember…
Five Benefits of Self-Confidence
I was chatting with a friend this week who was sharing a work situation that she wished she had expressed more confidence. She believed that she would be more respected by her colleagues and be given more opportunities. Can you relate? Are there situations …
Trust Yourself
I don’t know if I’ve ever shared this with you, but I never had a burning desire to be a lawyer. I loved being an undercover police officer but I recognized that buying cocaine was not a mom-friendly kind of job. I’ve always been interested in law, but practicing was not a calling. Don’t get me wrong …
Not a Fan of New Year’s Resolutions
I was never into New Year’s Resolutions. I reasoned that it would be better to wait for the spring. You know, the change of season where everything is new and fresh. But when March finally rolled around no one was talking about resolutions and goal setting. So, another year would pass, and …
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